simple assignment

Okay. So i was given this simple assignment by Patterson. It looks simple but it really is complicated. hehehehe. He asked me to give an interpretation to a quote that i guess he had read it somewhere. Oh well, let me try and give my own interpretation of it. If you think i have wrong interpretation or you would like to give your comment and/or own interpretation you are free to do so. Just send me a comment wokey.

Hmmm... So the quote goes like this:

absence is to love like air is to fire. it extinguishes the weak and it rekindles the great

My Interpretation:

if in a relationship, the love that builds the relationship is weak constant absence will possibly cause love to deminish easily. But if the foundation of love is so strong - build with trust and honesty - absence will just merely be the instrument which will make the even love stronger. It may seem impossible but considering a popular saying, "absence makes the heart grow fonder". The more you miss the person the more you will show affection, the more a person would be passionate and the eagerness to feel one's touch and kiss will be greater.

you might ask why "absence is to love" was associated to "air is to fire". to simplify it, air can cause fire to stop or even make it worse or spread. Just like love. If love is weak in a relationship, constant or long absence could cause the relationship to be on a stage what they call "on the rocks" or even worse it will bring the relationship to an end. But if love is strong, no matter how far a person is separated from his/her loved one for a long time, the relationship will remain strong and lasting.



Whew!!! At last i can say that my explanation is done. I don't know if I have explained it well and interpreted it correctly. It even looks like i was just repeating myself. But oh well, that's just my point of view.

Better Than Me...

I think you can do much better than me
After all the lies I made you believe
Guilt kicks in and I start to see
The edge of the bed
Where your nightgown used to be
I told myself I wouldn't miss you
But I remembered
What it feels like beside you
I really miss your hair in my face
And the way your innocence tastes
And I think you should know this
You deserve much better than me

While looking through your old box of notes
I found those pictures
That you were looking for
If there's one memory I don't want to lose
That time at the mall
You and me in the dressing room
I told myself I won't miss you
But I remembered
What it feels like beside you
I really miss your hair in my face
And the way your innocence tastes
And I think you should know this
You deserve much better than me

The bed I'm lying in is getting colder
Wish I never would've said it's over
And I can't pretend
that I won't think about you when I'm older

Cause we never really had our closure
This can't be the end
I really miss your hair in my face
And the way your innocence tastes
And I think you should know this
You deserve much better than me
I really miss your hair in my face
And the way your innocence tastes
And I think you should know this
You deserve much better than me
(And I think you should know this)
(You deserve much better than me)


song by: Hinder

Then again... Hate me...

I'm so crazy/foolish and so stupid. Here you are willing to be back and yet here i am "refusing" it all. I used such word because i don't know what else fits to describe what i have done. But i hope you understand why i was able to do such. I am weak and sensitive. You know how i take things and what people say to me seriously. I get hurt so easily. And i got hurt so much. I have forgiven you ever since. I just need time to heal. I cared for you so much and i have loved you more than i love my self, enough to overcome the anger and rage i felt. But not every wound heals fast. As much as i wanted to move freely like before, there is something that has been stopping me. I didn't know what it was at first but now I know. The pain is what has been stopping me. I got affected so much by it.

I'll be back. Please wait. For the mean time, let me heal my self.

You loved me. You hated me. You've missed me. But I hope you do not hate me again for this.

Merry Christmas!!!

wow! good for a lot of people i know, they are spending their christmas with their family and some relatives. as for me, here i am at work doing same routines that i do everyday (except during my days off... hehehe) at work.

i was able to speak to patterson earlier and i envy him bcoz he is now spending christmas with his family (also with his brothers and sister's families) and i know that he is having a good time there. i enjoyed the conversation, it was long and "fruitful" one heheheheh. nah, what i mean is that we were able to talk about a lot of things.

but despite all that loneliness and being homesick that i am feeling now, i am still very happy. i get to talk to people whom i love and are important to me and greeted them "Merry Christmas". oh yeah, i also gave my co-workers a (small) box of chocolate as my present for them this Christmas. i was able to talk to athan and we have talked about the conflicts and a little misunderstandings we had and we did fixed things out which gives me relief.

I just hope i'll be working again on new year's eve. so that i won't feel too homesick again. ^___^ and also hopefully i would be able to start one of these days in my new job. *wishing*

Deadline

*deep sigh*

wokey.... i'm on a deadline now. i made the flyers for my job interview requirement. Hmmm I really really hope that i pass this and be able to get the job.

honestly, i don't have sleep yet since i went home early this morning from work. *yawn* hayz. i hope tomorrow will be a good or rather be the best day for me. ^__^

job interview

oh well... I just had one yesterday morning. Don't know yet what the result is. I still have to do a given project and wait for at least until friday before I get to know the result. If i pass, i'll have a new job description but will still be working in the same company. But if it'll be the other way, oh well, I'll have the same job till I find a new one.

I hope i will be lucky enough that I could pass and get this job. I need it and I really want it. Ooohh.. the agony of waiting is sinking into my nerves now. *sweat*

wish me great luck... *praying*

Love Me. Hate Me. Miss Me.

In my life, there are a lot of people who come and go. But only few remain. Some are childhood friends who really understands me and accepts me for who i am, some were my "enemies" or those who i do not get along with at first then in the long run became my friends, and some are complete strangers who i became close with and learn to love each other as friends and/or as special someone. The others who left me were the ones who loved me at first, and hate me in the end. But then again sometimes i still get to talk to them and I'm quite happy hearing from them that they had at least missed me.

I dunno why but changes really occur in life and nothing really remains permanent for you to hold on to. So sad but it is true. As they say, there is always an end for everything.

Oh well, let me try to assess myself.

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Love Me.
They "learn" to love me coz i guess when i say i love them i really show it as much as i can. i am not the kind of person who always say the words "i love you" and yet they do not mean it sometimes. I'd rather say nothing than say those 3 words and make someone expect that I really love them. I say it when I mean it.

Miss Me.
This can be either way. It could be you will miss the good times or the bad times we have spent together. But most likely of course, you'll miss the good times (who in the world would miss the bad times). Hehehe. Well, it is up to the person now what he/she'll be missing about me. But I sure bet that no matter what, those who have been close to me will really miss me even though they will suddenly hate me in the end...

Hate Me.
Better not try to know me more if you do not want to hate me. If you know you can't handle a spoiled brat - in general - simply be my friend and never cross the line. The difference? If you are just simply a friend of mine and know's only just half about who i really am, i could always control myself and my limits. If more than that, i could be possessive, over-protected, too demamding of one's attention, always wants confirmation and be more than you could imagine. I also get jealous so easily.
But if you are very willing to, i would gladly appreciate it and be thankful that you have become part of me no matter what the outcome would be.

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I dunno maybe there are more about me that they have learned to love when they get to know me more. I just gave 1 trait that i know I possess and could guarantee that i could give in any relationship i get to be involved. I am not the type who build myself too much with good traits when asked to be described. Coz if i were asked, i would always describe my negative side.

I have this thing about me that is known as "split personality". I treat people differently. There are limits whoever they are. This is the thing about me that i could not categorize to be a bad or a good one. It all depends on the situation or the person i get to be with.

Let those ones who wanted to know more about me discover for themselves who i really am. Let them have it, see it and feel everything first hand. Coz maybe until then they could be able to understand more why they would love me, miss me, and if possible hate me.

Kisses

Nothing much...

I am about to take my 3 hours sleep for the mean time to have strength for tonight's work. Yep. I'll be working again tonight. Well, I have to. I need to pay my debts out here. Hahahah...

Hmmm... the results on my quiz seem to be far different from the answers I have. Eerrr... It's not dat accurate... Eeeekk...

Oh well, just try it...

take the quiz

Why Men Cheat

This i got interested with. Hahahah... Oh well just read on. This article was posted by David Zinczenko last November 30. Let's see what his explanation would be why this happen.

Of course, we all know that while men and women are both capable of cheating, it's often the guys who have the biggest problem keeping their belts firmly buckled. And we all know that no matter who it's with, why it's done, or where the after-hours canoodling takes place, cheating is-most of the time-the ultimate relationship death sentence. But instead of dwelling on what happens after the cheating takes place, one of the ways to perhaps prevent infidelity is by knowing a little bit about why men stray. I'm not offering them as excuses, merely explanations as to what happens in that brain (and other body parts) of his-in hopes that you might be able to prevent it. Here, the top reasons why men cheat:

To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.


To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.


To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.


To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.

Hmmm... I just wanted to share this but I have no intention of offending some guys around and be a racist or whatsoever. But i'm open to comments if there is.